wedding - my w@y

Walimatul-urus – from my humble perspective.traditional values versus the more uptodate modern hybrid cross mixed menu onboard.
Of late there r all sorts of chaos among the old guard protecting what may be left of our traditional malay wedding custom,namely the merisik,menanda,meminang-bertunang,hantaran belanja hangus (burnt burnt),majlis berinai (henna?),majlis akad nikah,majlis mambatalkan air sembayang n lastly the garndiest of all…mother or errrr grandma of all occasion – bersanding cum wedding reception (elaborate décor,u do not know whois the guests on board,banquet feast fit for the king of this earth,yeap u read it correctly no need to take a closer look : king of the earth if there’s one  ),…hold on a sec need to catch my breath  my hands on xperience came in the early part of mid 20’s.naah not 1820’s or 1920’s laaa dowh!!!by the end of the ceremonious wedding reception,both my other haf n me = mentally,physically,spiritually n emotionally drained,just like a piece of linen tumbled dry in the dryer again n again!!~haha aint typing no more.
wedding or to my preferable term = coming of 2 hearts together as one, shud (shall I use the term must)be private,simple,unassuming n family oriented,okey closest of kinship,inner circle of frens n left right north south neighbours only.other than that = out of bounds.cant we spared the king/queen of the day from them audiences?for what ever reason there might be…let them be the king/queen n we mere living creatures must abide by their command.haha hv u ever seen the king/queen on the altar weeping unstoppably?ur sincerely on countless countback witness the unthinkable…not once twice but thrice!!!~keh keh keh how interesting  since then vowed to myself not to let the unthinkable happen to any of my offsprings on their most important day.i’ll let em decide from a-zee (American English).their wish is my command.let em share their solemn promise to each other in a private n reclusive manner.posh it will be,I’ll vouch u on that.probably syahrin wants to hold his big day on a cruise ship…consider done my dear son or sofea wants all table cloths laced by her fav designer label- gladly done too or syarkhiel wanna an all white (am an all black fan,Andrew Mertherns is my idol:he looks like a school boy but play/read the game like a master…the best #10 to my beggy eyes) English Rose England Jersey drapping all the seats…haha dun care as long as the pleasure is him,king of the day.alas I need to check on my Scottish Bukta jersey…now where did I see it decades from now – on my back for sure!!!that’s for me to keep.